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The, "Rebuilding After the Explosions: Helping Parents Put the Pieces Back Together" workbook for families is an interactive way for families to learn how to apply the lessons in the book.
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Rebuilding After the Explosions: Helping Parents Put the Pieces Back Together
written by Jane E. Jenkins
To make changes that give your family an opportunity to be secure and well adjusted, capable and confident, positive, fun and happy, thus improving the chances of raising emotionally healthy children for generations to come.
Preface - As a parent you will learn how to look for and create a positive, loving, and supportive environment in your home by focusing on and instilling positive character traits in each other so all family members can become their own best selves.
CAN THIS BOOK HELP YOU AVOID EXPLOSIONS? HERE IS A SNEAK PEAK...
Do you need some help with minor explosions?
Learn how to connect with your family, uniquely and individually - help them feel love they need Pg. 23
Learn how to help your family share the goal of staying on track by achieving family goals. Pg. 49
Learn the benefit for the family to learn the advantage of “to be” vs “to do”. Pg. 52
Learn how to teach your children not to make the same mistake twice. Pg. 61
Learn how to identify the smoke before it becomes a raging fire by understanding emotions. Pg. 72
Learn the best way to put a stop to begging, spoiled children by having a united front. Pg. 86
Learn how 20 seconds a day can give you a huge boost in your marriage. Pg. 89
Learn what behavior decreases three stress hormones. Pg. 91
Learn what helps your children feel more secure in your home. Pg. 102
Learn something that will help your children have success in many areas of their lives. Pg. 115
Learn how to help your children through problems quickly and permanently. Pg. 144
Learn about some very easy fixes! Pg. 181 Learn some easy conflict resolution tips. Pg. 191
Do you need some help with major explosions?
Learn how failure is actually a very good thing for your children and it makes sense. Pg. 138
Learn how to recognize a deep seeded problem within seconds. Pg. 140
Learn how to help your children through problems quickly and permanently. Pg. 144
Learn why it is so important to understand your children’s adolescent brain. Pg. 145
Learn the very simple way to avoid alcohol and substance addictions. Pg. 150
Learn how to “break down social barriers and induce feelings of optimism…” Pg. 152
Learn what every parent needs to understand to help protect their children. Pg. 157
Learn about addictions that can change the course of your child’s life. Pg. 161
Learn about behaviors that can cause serious desensitization problems for families. Pg. 165
Learn about social behaviors and how they can create many problems that may surprise you. Pg. 172
Learn about every parent’s nightmare which requires a lot of love and a lot of strength. Pg. 207
Learn what behavior can create bonding problems for life. Another need for strong parents! Pg. 232
SUMMARY OF CHAPTERS
Chapter 1 - How are You Handling the Explosions in Your Life? Explosions happen! – 1. Clean up 2. Check and repair foundation 3. Rebuild with respect – gratitude – obedience – involvement with family
Chapter 2 - Some Building Blocks to rebuild
1. This book will help you understand where you are currently in your family relationships.
2. You will learn how to clean up the mess left behind from explosions you and your family have already encountered.
3. You will learn how to strengthen your relationship as parents, thus strengthening the foundation for the whole family.
4. You will be able to explain how you can help all members of your family be the very best they can be thus enabling them to have a secure, emotionally healthy and happy family.
1. This book will help you understand where you are currently in your family relationships.
2. You will learn how to clean up the mess left behind from explosions you and your family have already encountered.
3. You will learn how to strengthen your relationship as parents, thus strengthening the foundation for the whole family.
4. You will be able to explain how you can help all members of your family be the very best they can be thus enabling them to have a secure, emotionally healthy and happy family.
"ALERT #2 - I have always loved self-help parenting books and have included my favorites from well-known authors. I started with the easiest concepts to grasp and worked up to the more difficult ones. If you are already familiar with the books in the first several chapters, then you will be able to move quickly through them and it will be a nice review. I have included several because parents are all different and will be able to choose which one fits them best and hopefully you will choose to use all of them.
The first ten chapters of this book are the “how to” part so you will have the ammunition needed to tackle all of the explosions mentioned in the last half of the book. It is about “the problems that are out in the cruel hard world lurking at your children" part! The “how to” part is easier than you might think. By the time you get to the scary part you will no longer be a wimpy parent but a strong, super hero type, a full of confidence parent! That is good news!
The first ten chapters of this book are the “how to” part so you will have the ammunition needed to tackle all of the explosions mentioned in the last half of the book. It is about “the problems that are out in the cruel hard world lurking at your children" part! The “how to” part is easier than you might think. By the time you get to the scary part you will no longer be a wimpy parent but a strong, super hero type, a full of confidence parent! That is good news!
Chapter 3 - The Five Love Languages - we summarize Dr. Gary Chapman's book. Learn the importance of learning the five love languages and how they relate to your family. When you speak their love language, they will feel your love for them. #f7d800
Chapter 4 - The One Minute Mother - we will review Spencer Johnson's (well known for One Minute Manager) version of this strong, loving mother who teaches some golden gems which create a loving, strong relationship between parents and children.
Chapter 5 – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families - Steven Covey, the well known author of "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" also has incredible information about helping your family to handle the turbulence of this difficult life and how every family needs a flight plan to have a successful family.
Chapter 6 - The article, "What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be?" written by Lynn G. Robbins is one of the most importance concepts that can benefit your family for a lifetime! This most important concept – “to be” rather than “to do” is so vital in helping your family instill wonderful character traits and building up each other as well. This has been a life changing concept for me.
Chapter 7 – Consequences - It is vital to allow the natural consequences of actions to be felt...positively or negatively. It takes a strong parent to allow their "little darlings" to feel any pain from their choices. Problems in the home can be eliminated so quickly when parents are strong parents, not wimpy parents! This is a must for helping to have peaceful home.
Chapter 8 - The Clean-up Process can be Messy - To clean up the messes – understand the history – find the “seed” – a zillion different experiences and perspectives - We are who we are because of our biology, genealogy, psychology, ideology, theology and sociology and I am sure many more “ologies”. Negative emotions are like poison to the body and especially the soul.
Chapter 9 - How Strong is Your Foundation? Marriage is the foundation - learn how to strength your marriage so you and your spouse are best friends forever - learn the magic of a daily 20 second kiss, a weekly date and the importance of play!
Chapter 10 - Stepping Stones to Rebuild With - Your family will have an advantage when they are able to identify how they are better because of trials in their lives. Character traits are building blocks to create a strong and healthy family and are stepping stones to rebuild
Chapter 11 - The Finished Product is Beautiful - Review
Chapter 12 - Turning Stumbling Blocks into Stepping Stones - We can certainly see explosions in our lives as stumbling blocks to us. Stumbling blocs may trip us, stop us, delay us, divert us and in the least, frustrate and annoy us! I want you to think of how stumbling blocks can benefit us. Yes, they can even become a blessing!
Chapter 13 – Awareness is Essential but Just the Beginning - learn how to identify the problems - Learn about the problems that concrete thinking can create in our children - learn how to use a wonderful method in helping your children work through problems when their young so they don't create problems when they are older.
Chapter 14 – Many Explosions Occur Due to Lack of Boundaries - The adolescent brain – Modern technology observes that many problems occur due to the adolescent brain (until 23-24!) and how risky behaviors literally change the brain. Ages 11-13 are particularly vulnerable.
Chapter 15 - Dopamine can be a great neurotransmitter to stimulate pleasure from activities like sex or eating. Of course, that is not such a good thing for the adolescent brain. Oxytocin is a wonderful feel good hormone that can reduce social fears and that can be a good thing or a not so good thing. That is why we need to be a proactive, strong parent.
Chapter 16 – Desensitization IS a Big Deal and that is why is it so important to BE A PARENT, NOT A WIMP!!!! Problems - movies, blood, violence, video games and pornography – that creates desensitization which creates less empathy for others! Problems for future!
Chapter 17 – Social Behaviors that can Create Problems - Habit forming problems – effects the brain. Six experts in neuroscience and cognitive psychology – negative effects of video games on the brain –Negative cognitive effects – listlessness and discontent with slower paced activities such as school work. Violent games – more aggressive thoughts – reduction of empathy – irritation – confrontational etc. Materialism and the entitlement mentality – “things” - Bullying - Blame game - Impulsive behavior - Disrespectful behavior - Will learn conflict resolution!
Chapter 18 - Easy Prevention for Alcohol and Substance Abuse
Chapter 19 - Summary
Chapter 20 – A Major Explosion that Cannot be Ignored - Sexualizing of our society – negative consequences are long lasting and disastrous for our families for generations to come. Puppy love hasn’t disappeared – it’s been sexualized! 5th -6th graders relationships are common place.
Chapter 21 – Hooking Up – The New Trend of Casual sex – the largest and most important sex organ is the brain. In fact, the brain itself is molded from sexual behavior. We explore the book, "Hooked" by McIlhaney and Bush (2008). It discusses how because sexual behavior is exciting; it triggers a values-neutral dopamine reward and continues making habitually unsafe choices,, i.e. sexual behavior. One of the strongest generators of sex is a dopamine reward. And sex is one of the strongest generators of the dopamine reward. When the sex bonding/break-up cycle is repeated a few or many times – even when the bonding was short-lived – damage is done to the natural ability to have meaningful bonding to other human beings.
Chapter 22 - Benefits of Not Being a Wimpy Parent - this chapter is amazing concerning the benefits of regular weekly attendance at church. The statistics show positive consequences in so many areas of life for children and adults alike.
Chapter 23 – Explosions or Peace? As you learn to be a strong parent rather than a wimpy parent you will begin to see the benefit in so many areas of your family's life. The choice is yours!