May - A Natural High - The Bonding that Occurs Naturally Between Human Beings

We have been created to bond! That parental bond can create an “in your face” situation faster than anything else. It’s not just in humans either…do you want to go face to face with a mama bear that is about eight feet tall and on her hind legs? That is why women have been nicknamed Mama Bears! (I know, I know guys; you are Papa bears too when it comes to your kids and I will give you the opportunity to pound your chest next month around Father’s Day, ok? :0) 

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Tada…once again, I usually end up talking about wonderful, naturally occurring hormones we are born with, Oxytocin and Vasopressin, which create strong bonds and not just between parents and children!   ​

​After writing the book, Rebuilding After the Explosions: Helping Parents Put the Pieces Back Together; I can’t help but look at the world differently. My goal and purpose is to not only help you to avoid explosions in your life but to help you make the best choices so you will have the very best results for your family. Tell me, who doesn’t want to avoid explosions in their lives? It can change the course of your life as well as your children’s lives? Your children will grow up with your example and likely follow in your footsteps

Those magical feel good hormones kick in early, even with just a gaze! Because this natural process leads to sexual intimacy, it is vital for youth to understand how easily those attachments can occur. The right bonding, to the right person at the right time is ideal! ​

It makes so much sense to me that in order to populate the earth; a loving Heavenly Father had to create something so strong in humans and animals that they would die to protect their young, thus allowing the human race and animal species to continue.  It is all part of a glorious plan that is truly amazing to me! We are meant to connect through bonding! 

​We can all probably think of instances when our adolescent years created problems for us. My adolescent brain made some poor choices and my children were affected by it, in some ways negatively, and some ways positively.  Guess what folks? That’s life! We all had adolescent brains and we may have made poor choices and that is exactly my point. These hormones begin kicking in early and actually earlier than they used to, so we need to be extra strong parents to help guide them. 

​Because of bonding hormones, our adolescents need guidance from loving parents who understand the dire effect of these bonding hormones. They need strong parents to protect them from their adolescent brains! You can tell them that it is your job as their parents, especially during those volatile years!  They want to grow up faster than they should. Be strong since you know that hormones can kick in and lead them down a road that is not the best course for them. Of course, an adolescent believes they can conquer anything! You can help them by teaching them the importance of setting boundaries which can help protect them from their own adolescent brains.  

When we think about the bonding hormones that are so strong at as we engage with each other through dating, falling in love, getting married, conceiving and birthing children, that incredible bonding occurs as parent’s care for and fall deeply in love with their children… enough to die to protect them if necessary! It is so obvious that we are created to and meant to bond with others.  

Following are topics I plan to discuss in the parenting articles as well as the newsletters. Rather than focusing on the bad things that happen in the world, I want to focus on the best choices that produce the best consequences for our own lives as well as our family’s lives.  
 

 A unique summer snack 
Some clever person decided to pour pickle juice in ice cube trays with a toothpick in each square and freeze them and then sell them at the basketball games for ten cents each! The grandkids LOVE ‘em!  

For more group games just go to PLAY - GAMES AND ACTIVITIES - GROUP GAMES   - We would love to have you email other fun games and activities to shapingthechild@gmail.com  Thanks for your help!

​​Try a fun game to connect with your family! Want a suggestion? It is literally a connecting game called The Slap Game (not what you may be thinking) :0/

​Just click on the picture below.    

Thanks for reading! Next month the parenting article will come out around the 10th and then the newsletter around the 20th. Then for July I plan on getting it closer to the first and the middle of the month for the newsletter! Thanks for reading and please tell other parents you know about us.